At this point it’s no secret that millennials have been labeled the most narcissistic, self-centered generation to date.

Ironically enough, it’s millennials who have given themselves that title (the older generations just happened to agree), so it stuck.

From a surface perspective, yes- we do convey narcissistic characteristics; there’s no denying that we take the most selfies and care the most about how many likes we get on pictures or status updates.

The Relationship Between You and You

Presumably, we are the most self-absorbed generation; but ask yourself this:

When was the last time you did something for yourself?

And I mean only for yourself, disregarding the opinions of anyone else.

People assume that because millennials post selfies, we are selfish, but the honest truth is that selfies are merely a tool used to gauge the likeness of anyone and everyone who views them.

By definition, narcissism is an inordinate fascination with oneself, and to be selfish is to be concerned primarily with one’s own interests, benefits, welfare, etc., regardless of others.

According to the above definitions, it can’t be concluded that millennials are narcissistic, nor are we selfish. The use of the words “own interests” and “regardless of others” makes it difficult to say that our generation is selfish because of how heavily we weigh in the opinions of others on our behavior.

In fact, studies show that there is no clear correlation between narcissism and selfie-posting (plot twist). It can be argued that millennials’ social media habits do not create narcissism, they create a platform for validity.

The Happy Kind of Selfish

Our generation needs to be MORE selfish.

We need to live for OURSELVES without the consideration of outside influence. Do what we want because we LIKE to, not because we want likes.

Of course, like anything else, there’s a healthy way to incorporate some narcissistic tendencies into your life, Dr. Greg Kushnick has already established there are ways to take healthy selfies. But there are even more ways to promote positivity through habits that, for the most part, already exist.

I’m not saying that you should go to sleep tonight with the intentions of waking up a raging narcissist, but I am saying that being a little more self-inclined could very well be a good thing, especially when you avoid outsourcing your self-worth.

For the most part narcissism has a bad reputation. If someone were to call you a narcissist you would probably get offended. When used in moderation though, narcissism could be a powerful tool in harnessing your inner “CEO.”

A Call for a New Name for Millennial Narcissism

Millennials are already known for being narcissists, so let’s give narcissism a new name — or at least rename “millennial narcissism” to reflect our unique imprint on the world.

How about the Self-Liker? Or the Narcimill? Or better yet…the Narciselfie.

Or perhaps the REAL point is for you to name yourself rather than letting others name you! Isn’t that essentially what we’re talking about here? Go on, name yourself.

More Reason to Rage as a Self-Proclaimed Narcissist

One more reason to develop your narcissistic self….

People who score higher on the Narcissistic Personality Inventory (NPI) are better leaders, tend to be naturally more confident, are more likely to engage in physical activity and are typically more successful overall than those who score lower.

Keeping that in mind, would you still be offended if someone called you a narcissist? Probably not.

So millennials, I leave you with the knowledge that our selfie-posting, “like” hungry generation is not made up of narcissists- but it should be.

We should do everything in our power to turn the negative stigma around narcissism into something positive because it’s okay to be selfish sometimes.